Thoughts of a Sprite

Friday, March 24, 2006

Blown out of the water...

So James and I are no longer dating. I never saw it coming. I am not used to being dumped... it has only happened once. As far as I knew everything was fine, and all the sudden he was cold. He said things were moving too fast, but I was just following the pace he set. It was his idea to go meet parents, and his idea to go to Ft. Walton. I had plans to kayak with Larry, that I put on hold, cause he wanted me to go.

Anyhow it is better this way. Though he is a really nice guy, and I wish him the best in life, he is an alcoholic. And for the first time in my life, I did not hold that against him. I was trying to help him work through it. I guess this is what I get for not following my one strike, two strike, three strikes your out rule. That will teach me to let my guard down. lol~ I should have stuck with my gut and held him at arms length, but he was persuasive, clingy, pushing me to conform. Well he almost made it past the 90 day probation period... :) What strikes me as funny, is that I told Larry last night, before I talked to James, that this relationship was getting to be more trouble than it was worth. He needs too much of my time. ha~

I am really okay with this. It is easier on me, as it is hard to juggle school, work, and a relationship. He required most of my weekends, and every spare minute I had during the week. This is why I don't follow his reasoning. He was the one asking me for more time, can you come over tonight, can I come over tonight, am I going to see you tonight? constant hounding of that nature... so how ever fast it was moving was his pace.

Well, no big loss, I already have plans for tonight, and tomorrow night. :) Tomorrow night should be fun, as we are getting together a poker night. It should be interesting, cause I don't know how to play poker. lol~ It is a BYOB party, and I will probably be staying in Williston Saturday night.

I will finally have time to catch up on my psychology reading! I have my Saturdays back :) There is a test next friday in psych, and then one the following monday in spanish. We went over commands today in spanish, and man there is yet another verb congugation for these verbs. There are tons of congugations... reflexive, present progressive, commands, and good lord we have not even touched past tense yet.

well I need to pay attention now. blog ya later.

shes_a_sprite @ 7:25 AM.

6 comments

RenderB said...

Most latin based languages are a pain that way. Heck even french can be a headache at times. Although compared to some of the issues you run into while learning a version of chinese or japanese they are relatively simple. (From a western POV that is.)

9:00 AM

Unknown said...

It sounds like you really are better off, you are a special woman and only a very special guy will do.
Being an alchoholic would give me red signals because I have been in an alchoholic relationship it was terrible and you can't even try to fix it.
I'm glad you are ok with it.
Although it's confusing since he took you to meet his family so recently!
It doesn't matter that you let your guard down, it was a brave thing to do, and a good risk.
I do have to say though, that he doesnt know what he has just missed out on and lost!
You are in my prayers, much love xxx

2:44 PM

starbender said...

Awww sweetie, I'm sooo sorry! Honestly, U are MUCH BETTER OFF! Like Carmel said--Being in a alchoholic relationship is terrible! That is putting it mildly. They R way beyond terrible. U can't help him! Not ever! I know, I have had 2. There is NO-WAY 2 deal with these guys! No matter what the situation is, there is only 3 ways 2 deal with an alchoholic---AND ALL 3 R WRONG ANYHOW!
1. Agree with them!
2. Say U didn't hear them!
3. Pretend U are sleeping!
It doesn't matter-U always end up getting U'r azz kicked! It is very, VERY SAD!!! I don't think U realize how LUCKY u really are right now. FUCK THE BASTARD!!! He has just saved U'R LIFE!!!
:)
P.S. Don't EVER take him back!!! Whatever U do.... Even if he begs! I speak from experience... RUN FROM THESE TYPES!!!

6:34 AM

RenderB said...

There is only one thing you should do with any kind of addict, not have anything to do with them. It doesn't matter if it's alchol, drugs, sex, computers or even watching tv.
You can't help these kinds of people they have to help themselves.

7:52 AM

Luctouque said...

puttig alcohol aside...it sounded like he had a co-dependancy problem and that if he was that clingy so early on in the relationship just imagine how it would be after a year. Looks like he did you a favour by leaving:)

3:18 PM

starbender said...

Just checkin on U. Everything okay?
I know it gets a bit depressing after a break up! Thought I would stop by and say "Hi"
:)

9:43 PM